145 Comments
User's avatar
max9nine's avatar

Convert your country, (whichever one that may be), to voluntarism, so we may leave behind the archaic governmental practice of rule by fear and coercion.

It is only through threat to our lives and livelihood that corrupt government exists.

Expand full comment
Cheerio's avatar

Great list Frances, now to create a To Be List :)

https://www.lionessesofafrica.com/blog/2018/1/14/essential-read-the-to-be-list-by-latesha-randall

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

What a terrific idea for a book!

Expand full comment
Miguel Nambi's avatar

Dear Francis. I really like your writings. Despite the fact I'm little younger than you and living far away from your place in south hemisphere or at tropic of capricorn. My infancy was very similar to yours. I thank you for your work. Please keep it up. Cheers.

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

Many thanks for letting me know you are following my work! I have never been to any country outside of Europe, so I am very happy to hear that my writing reaches you! xx

Expand full comment
Tereza Coraggio's avatar

I love this, Frances. You already know the ones I'd add, which are really just variations on your themes. We want the same world. In particular, your description of self-reliant kids reminded me of this one: https://thirdparadigm.substack.com/p/who-stole-our-creativity?

Oh and I did record the interview with Ahmad, which turned out to be a deep dive into the first section of my book! He's planning to make it a series and go through section by section. It was more than I could possibly have imagined and 3X he said, "I love, love, love your book!"

I don't know when it will air but I'm so grateful to you for the connection. Being read so deeply just warms my heart. And your faith in me to recommend me gladdens my soul ;-)

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

Frances, I was born in July 1965 and I remember a lot of those things that you mentioned! I also taught myself things! Nobody taught me valuable skills either! I figured those things out for myself! I was raised by a single mother who was bitter with life and I had a strained and difficult relationship with my mother! I actually hated school for the entire 12 years I had to go to school! I didn't enjoy any schooling until I went to college because I chose what I wanted to learn in college! But I'm a child of the 1970s that grew up in America and I was a typical American child of the 1970s 🙂🙃!

I actually enjoyed my childhood because me and my mother lived in an apartment and the apartment complex had a swimming 🏊‍♀️ pool which I stayed at in the summer from morning until sunset! The recreation area with the swimming pool didn't close till 11pm every night so many people would hang out there until closing(grown-ups drinking and partying at the pool and sometimes I would go swimming at night too to join in the fun(but no alcohol for me at 10 years old though🙂) Those were some fun times! If I wasn't at the swimming pool I was riding my bike all over the neighborhood! I played with barbie(the one with long blonde hair a tan and wearing the classic one piece bathing 🩱 suit! My favorite TV shows at the time was wonder woman with Lynda Carter, the bionic woman, the six million dollar man and Charlie's angels! I loved TV shows with strong female characters that took no shit and whooped ass, and I'm still like that, I'm probably the hugest Xena fan despite the lesbian undertones of that show! I was a grown woman when Xena came out and I never missed an episode!🙂 Now I have all of those TV shows on DVD, my husband got them all for me as birthday gifts and Christmas gifts!

But I look back today and wonder what the hell happened, life has changed so much and not for the better, there's too much hate between people nowadays! When I was a little girl growing up in the 1970s life was very different, a lot easier! Oh and I almost forgot to mention the movie Saturday Night Fever when it came out! That movie stayed in the theater forever and it was rated R and I was under 18 but at that time I looked 18 years old and I got in to see it as VCRs and DVDs didn't exist back then! I was blown away at the way John Travolta danced 🕺 when he took over the dance floor in that scene! Me back then at 12 years old I had no idea that a man could move like that 🤩😛😆 wow! 😃

It definitely was a different world back then! Life has changed so much over these years! I look around nowadays and can only shake my head with no comments at the shit show taking place today! I hope you don't mind my long comment here with me getting nostalgic about better times! I'm almost 60 years old now and I can so much relate to what you are saying here!🙂 Oh and that old analog rotary telephone ☎️ dial! 👍that's what I grew up with, we didn't have cell phones and smart phones back then, and me and friends planned to meet up at the local mall!

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

I love long comments especially if they are filled with nostalgia for the days when we were really happy! It wasn’t all a bowl of cherries but they were our moments to cherish. I get cross when younguns call us ‘boomers’ and blame us for the ills of the world. They don’t know that we were very active trying to make things better…. but the class war was always trying to beat us down.

The future looks grim for my grandkids…. they hardly ever go out because their mother is frightened that Social Services will whisk them away from her unless she keeps them tied to her apron strings. They are skinny and white and glued to their phones…. vaccinated to the teeth too! Grrr.

Expand full comment
Gayle Wells's avatar

Push for community owned and run banks. Take that massive stranglehold grig off permanently. That is how we get out of the system and why they have had trouble destroying the rich industry and small business successes in Germany. The other may be to go back to how we felt as kids when we would wake up in the morning and just know what we were excited to do. That tickle in the belly to steer us toward our joy and divine destiny!

Expand full comment
Tirion's avatar

That's a great photo of Eastgate Street, Chester! I remember it well.

I think the other items on your list will be a lot easier to achieve if you make Item Number One "Disinfect humanity/Earth from the dangerous pathogens known as The Black Nobs"!

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

I love to look at old photos like that! It was a different world back then!

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

Yes, that one should be first! Well said! xx

Expand full comment
Teddi's avatar

Thank You Frances I rolled with all your memories .I had a tree fort next to a creek when I was young a sturdy fortress my bestie had older brothers we defended it with our lives .

If I could change something I would love to go back to regular light bulbs instead of led’s

Be Well

Expand full comment
Diane Engelhardt's avatar

There's a long list, but you've made a good start, Frances! My suggestion: send kids outside, and don't give them smartphones!

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

Exactly! 💯 👍

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

Well, you've covered a LOT of good bases here! I agree with all of them. And I think boys would do well to know how to sew a little bit, too.

I think ALL kids and everyone else should know the basics of First Aid and for adults, CPR; everyone should be taught the Heimlich Maneuver (for choking).

I haven't seen kids in Scouting, either, anymore, I don't know if it's gone, but Scouting is good. Learning how to DO things, tie good knots, paddle a canoe, build a campfire and pitch a tent...

In the US we have (though they charge a lot to go there) Waldorf schools, which is much like how I think all kids should be educated...

https://www.steiner.edu/what-is-a-waldorf-education/

And I think all kids should learn at least ONE foreign language, learn to play a musical instrument (could be drums, etc), and to get up and give a speech in front of the class. Oh, and kids should be encouraged to READ-- books! I went all the way through COLLEGE with a very lousy education in history; the only history class that was really much good at all was ART history, and that was great, and I highly recommend that, too.

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

I agree 💯 with everything you said! I never went into the girl scouts or anything like that, I am too much of a loner! I'm also in America! As far as giving a speech in front of a class 😳 umm, no, I was always terrified and I hated having to do that! I still couldn't do that on a stage as an adult today!🙂

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

Well, I hear you. Perhaps if you’d had the kind of “teaching” in your childhood that gave you the confidence to do it, you’d be able to do it. It’s natural to feel frightened of that! But it’s not a mandatory thing. xo xo

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

Yeah you're right about that! I think most of my generation didn't feel comfortable doing that, anyway most of the people I went to school with didn't like that 🙂

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

Confidence comes from being prepared, and then DOING it. I enjoy it, but I'm still nervous! I was a singer in rock bands, and musician... You just have to focus on what you're DOING, and not on everyone staring at you, lol. Only Mick Jagger likes that. ;)

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

Yes, a wide ranging education is so important. I loved camping with the Girl Guides when I was young. I never see kids in those uniforms nowadays.

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

I don’t, either. But apparently we still have some… And they sell cookies, but those are not made by the girls, they’re factory cookies, and not exactly full of healthy anything much. But people LOVE those cookies, so I try to avoid them. ;)

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

Oh I love girl scout cookies 🍪, the peanut butter ones are my favorite! They used go door to door and sell those cookies!

Expand full comment
Cheri Murray's avatar

Lovely list! It brings back great memories.

Expand full comment
John Day MD's avatar

I'm afraid that somebody was cutting out the rungs on the ladder behind us as we climbed it.

;-(

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

It's not too late to re-build the ladder!

Expand full comment
John Day MD's avatar

I can't get down to where the tools and wood are.

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

OIC. Maybe some young ‘un would bring them up?

Expand full comment
John Day MD's avatar

In this analogy the ladder is time, and the rungs are how we lived in the past, but they were built as we moved forward in time, and have been taken out behind us. We can't be hunter gatherers or subsistence farmers, which are hard lives that you have to be born into. We can't even get a real land-line anymore. The infrastructure and expertise are gone, vanished behind us.

Expand full comment
The Word Herder's avatar

Oh. Well, better give up then!

Seriously, JDMD, we can do and be whatever we are willing to work for. xo

Expand full comment
John Day MD's avatar

We can do what is do-able, but "measure twice, cut once" is tha Carpenter's Rule.

Teddy Roosevelt said to "make sure you are right, then go ahead".

I grow veggies and ride my bike regularly, as you know, but I would still die very quickly if industrial economy went dark.

Expand full comment
Amii's avatar

Exactly 💯! As an American I see my country dying and too many Americans believing that Donald Trump is the "savior!" No, he's the opposite! My fellow Americans have gotten in a complacent mode with Trump back, I call Trump "Trojan Trump" because it's just a matter of time when the shit hits the fan! My fellow Americans better wake up and get busy, we have our country to save ourselves!

Expand full comment
Gas Axe's avatar

Great list and thank you for sharing your wisdom.

Expand full comment
poetinapaperbag's avatar

...Take time off and away from the to-do list.

Expand full comment
Akgrrrl's avatar

Eradicate the mindset of stupid parents who GIVE GIVE GIVE everything to children instead of teaching them ways to acquire what they need. Somebody needs to teach the relevant points of ACQUISITION as indentifying workmanship, craft and skillful design, and identifying materials and functions of the different woods, metals, fabrics, textiles, stone, etc. Learning where everything comes from is a most essential skill, and if it is provided freely by ignorant parents, curiosity and gumption is destroyed.

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

That is extremely important. I was first born in my family and we were poor until I was about 14 or so, by which time I was living on my own.

My dad remarried and had three boys. None of them wanted for anything, so they didn’t need to work like I had done. My dad gave them financial support to start their own businesses and was always there for them as an advisor. He retired wealthy at 50. He was a very astute man. He always impressed on the boys that I was “a self made woman” because he had never been able to give me the lifestyle they enjoyed. They looked up to me as their hippy older sister until they took up golf…. since then they have become too posh for me! 🤣😂

Expand full comment
:Stuart-james.'s avatar

Every point on your list plus…

Abolish credit cards, end the fraudulent practice of usury on fiat currency, create a real vote system and end the fake one. Create interest free currency.

Expand full comment
Frances Leader's avatar

Good points!

Expand full comment