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Losing a loved one, especially by being deceived (and in such a way 😱) , there's no pain like it. I don't drink alcohol either and also smoke (since aged 10, in the ally 😅). There is a lovely joke about Jewish people (I am half): A family of Jews went on a cruise. In the duty free shop they bought any number of liqueurs, fine spirits and wines. It was only when they got home that they remembered they don't drink! My grandparents lived in Golders Green. There were loads of great Jewish jokes around in those days - all told by the Jews themselves 🤣

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Wow, I feel for you on this one Frances. Unlike you Frances, I drank lots of alcohol when I was that age and would have flattened Lorraine, and her driving the car would not have stopped me. Looking back at the few girls I knew that slept with my second boyfriend, I should not have done what I did and said to them. I should have broken up with him instead. I wish I could go back and change all of that now. I admire you even more now that you were able to keep it cool, even though you claimed to be in some kind of shock at the time. Not drinking alcohol has its benefits!

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I cannot claim to be especially virtuous! I cannot drink alcohol. It makes me very sick, instantly. I have had a couple of tries when I was especially miserable but never could hold the drink down at any time. I am still the same!

Later, you will see that I did finally take considerable revenge on Lorraine.... xx

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I was hoping this was the case. I am reading all day about your life. It is very interesting and would make a great book.

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xoxoxo

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I am saddened with this episode of S.I.M.L But I'm getting a sense of The Lady Frances Leader and why you are what you are, a practical woman who cares for her family who has love in your heart for all but does not suffer fools easily, I'm intrigued to what will happen next in this exciting read all be it simultaneously sad, I have had similar experiences in my life but this has made me stronger and the reminder of the strikes and prime minister Harold Wilson was back in the day when politicians at least had the illusion of doing the right thing by the electorate unlike the true Enemy of the people, GOVERNMENTS/COUNCILS and their credited citizens, law enforcement officers etc. Thanks for opening your heart to the world. Respect & X 2 All.

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Tell me some bad shit befell that bitch in the end

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Wait and see! There is much more to this story. I don't want to spoil it by telling you the end before you have experienced the whole ride....

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OK, I am not very patient but this is better than any soap opera on TV!!

You doing OK?

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Of course! I am a fat, happy grannie, now living in gorgeous Dorset halfway between two of my most favourite places: Stonehenge and Durdle Door. I have a blessed existence, tbh! 😉

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No way, I live in BCP other side of Dorset!!

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Crikey! You mean Bournemouth? I am in Corfe Mullen!

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That is a mad coincidence!

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You are a master storyteller

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It's easy while my memory remains sharp! So many of the people I have to write about are now gone over..... I need to keep their memory alive, out of respect for them and the good times we shared. Yeah, there were some heartbreaks but we overcame them and the fundamental loyalty we had among us survived it all to the very end.

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i’m so sorry Frances, you deserved better

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True. It is how the cookie crumbles for many though, isn't it?

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i reacted in the same way, odd isnt it

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Same way? Did something similar happen to you, Ray?

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i was cheated on but we weren't married or anything as serious.

she told me she got chatted up by another guy the same day i did, she couldnt choose so strung us both along for about 6 months and finally chose him.

they moved to iceland (where she came from) and had a kid, then broke up about 3 months after the birth. i randomly met him in a pub about 3 years later and found this out!

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I gotta say, you got some big balls lady. I’d be proud to call you a friend. You never sees to amaze me. Your honesty is refreshing and brutal in the same moment. That’s why I love reading prose. Thank you 🙏🏻

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Nice of you to notice my balls. Generally they are fairly well hidden! 😉

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😂😂😂

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I know, but it is only the beginning of the stomach churning roller coaster that has been my life.....

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