This was a time of great music and will probably never see the likes again as you say tough times but I'd never noticed the tough times as I had lived with them for ever and was too busy having fun, as to twinkly lights, I know LED's are bad for us but I have a 15ft strip light going around my skirting board which is much nicer than lamps and has a warm cuddly feeling about the room, the difference with xmas lights is I get the feeling that we should all be happy Christmas compliers regardless and all of a sudden I'm surrounded by Santa's grottos every where and no one notices any hardship in the world anymore because it's Christmas and this just depresses me but I know this is my problem and need to sort out my perception of everything! to which I'm always updating, Love Sunday down memory lane because I feel I'm there with you (the sign of a great writer I believe) .Thanks again .Respect & X 2 All
I'd totally forgot about fag machines, so many memory's and descriptions of an age that I thought just belonged to me, so many flats with shilling meter heating that you straddled and usually got burnt from sitting on top because it was that cold and living in squats with dope smoking pals and sharing what we had, well most of us, I remember being unemployed and living in a bedsit and we got our dole/social (NOT) security Gyro's at Christmas that would be doubled for xmas & Hogmanay and me being the fool I am treated my fellow bedsitters to a few nights of partying and was told they would do the same when their Giro's arrived, of course this never happened and I was left with no cash and had an eye opener of a Christmas, I have never liked Christmas but this cemented it for me at the age of 19 or so and I IGNORE it with a vengeance, as does Death - starvation-Destruction -murder-devastation-tragedy-war etc and will never be distracted to the plight of many at this time of year by shinny lights and bobbles and Haaaappppy Newwwwwwww yearr Burp?!, what a waste of energy, I Try to have the same outlook every day and give the love and Respect to all who deserve it. Love reading these posts as it brings memory's of a life I once had (albeit not the best) . Thanks so much for sharing Frances. Respect & X 2 All
Such a strong survivor you are Frances. What experiences you've endured. Heartbreaking disappointments. You've really honed your perceptive skills through it all. Thanks for sharing.
I have come away from the experience very sad for Bridget Phetasy and her generation. She is in her early 40s, so almost 30 years younger than I am.
My generation was the first to have reliable control over our fertility from early in our lives and I appreciated that very much, because my mother had 5 back street abortions during the 1950s. Abortion horrified me; I saw it as premeditated murder. I saw how much it harmed my mum's health in the short term, but also her self esteem and mental health in the long term. Meanwhile, my father was going about his business with no psychological cross to bear and was, in fact, unfaithful to my mother, maybe more than once.
Being prescribed 'the pill' helped me and my friends avoid all that. It meant that I could obey my natural instincts without fear, more or less the same as my male friends did. They never treated me as a 'slut', far from it. We were exploring our sexuality together and learning from each other. We were free to be friends, whether we were physically making love or not. And we WERE friends, through thick and thin. Something my mother and grandmothers had not experienced in their lives.
I used to joke with some of the guys I knew that THEY were terrible 'sluts' because they were fathering kids left and right without taking full responsibility for the care of those children. Some of them heeded my opinions and made an effort to, at least, get to know their kids, even if they could not afford to provide for all of them.
Two of my best male friends, Sid and Jai each fathered more than 20 children (that they knew of!).... No woman could have sowed seeds to that extent, could she? It would have been physically impossible and totally exhausting, I imagine.
Nature drives us to procreate, obviously. So it is not an instinct we should try to curtail in my opinion. Celibacy is probably as psychologically damaging as licentiousness and so I see those two mindsets as extreme. Somewhere between the two lies a healthy zone, where we can enjoy our bodies, learn from each other, develop strong relationships and nurture future generations to do the same responsibly.
I found the essay that Bridget Phetasy wrote to be so caught up with religious dogma on the one hand and politicised 'women's liberation' on the other, that I despair for her and her generation!
It seems to me that since the sexual freedom of the 1970s, which was cut short by the AIDS fearmongering of the early 1980s, young people have taken a huge step backwards.
These 'slut-shaming' tendencies should have died along with my mother's repressed generation and NOT be resurrected to torture and castigate any more generations!
Do we see any other breed of mammal hampering themselves with sexual hang ups?
Springsteen, another musician i can no longer listen to, jabbed up moron
'He would never back down. He was an Aries' ive never paid attention to star signs but it is remarkable how often something i randomly learn about it rings true
Episode I - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/frances-leader-is-my-birth-name
Episode 2 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane
Episode 3 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-3
Episode 4 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-4
Episode 5 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-5
Episode 6 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-6
Episode 7 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-7
Episode 8 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-8
Episode 9 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-9
Episode 10 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-10
Episode 11 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-11
Episode 12 - https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-12
Episode 14: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-14
Episode 15: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-15
Episode 16: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-16
Episode 17: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-17
Episode 18: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-18
Episode 19: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-19
Episode 20: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-20
Episode 21: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-21
Episode 22: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-22
Episode 23: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-23
Episode 24: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-24
Episode 25: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-25
Episode 26: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-26
Episode 27: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-27
Episode 28: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-28
Episode 29: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-29
Episode 30: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-30
Episode 31: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-31
Episode 32: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-32
Episode 33: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-33
Episode 34: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-34
Episode 35: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-35
Episode 36: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-36
Episode 37: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-37
Episode 38: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-38
Episode 39: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-39
Episode 40: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-40
Episode 41: https://francesleader.substack.com/p/sunday-in-memory-lane-episode-41
This was a time of great music and will probably never see the likes again as you say tough times but I'd never noticed the tough times as I had lived with them for ever and was too busy having fun, as to twinkly lights, I know LED's are bad for us but I have a 15ft strip light going around my skirting board which is much nicer than lamps and has a warm cuddly feeling about the room, the difference with xmas lights is I get the feeling that we should all be happy Christmas compliers regardless and all of a sudden I'm surrounded by Santa's grottos every where and no one notices any hardship in the world anymore because it's Christmas and this just depresses me but I know this is my problem and need to sort out my perception of everything! to which I'm always updating, Love Sunday down memory lane because I feel I'm there with you (the sign of a great writer I believe) .Thanks again .Respect & X 2 All
I'd totally forgot about fag machines, so many memory's and descriptions of an age that I thought just belonged to me, so many flats with shilling meter heating that you straddled and usually got burnt from sitting on top because it was that cold and living in squats with dope smoking pals and sharing what we had, well most of us, I remember being unemployed and living in a bedsit and we got our dole/social (NOT) security Gyro's at Christmas that would be doubled for xmas & Hogmanay and me being the fool I am treated my fellow bedsitters to a few nights of partying and was told they would do the same when their Giro's arrived, of course this never happened and I was left with no cash and had an eye opener of a Christmas, I have never liked Christmas but this cemented it for me at the age of 19 or so and I IGNORE it with a vengeance, as does Death - starvation-Destruction -murder-devastation-tragedy-war etc and will never be distracted to the plight of many at this time of year by shinny lights and bobbles and Haaaappppy Newwwwwwww yearr Burp?!, what a waste of energy, I Try to have the same outlook every day and give the love and Respect to all who deserve it. Love reading these posts as it brings memory's of a life I once had (albeit not the best) . Thanks so much for sharing Frances. Respect & X 2 All
Such a strong survivor you are Frances. What experiences you've endured. Heartbreaking disappointments. You've really honed your perceptive skills through it all. Thanks for sharing.
https://youtu.be/5cMU0YoyNaU
In the above video, Bert Weinstein interviewed the young woman who wrote this essay:
https://bridgetphetasy.substack.com/p/slut-regret so I popped over there to read the essay & comments, before I listened to the video conversation.
I have come away from the experience very sad for Bridget Phetasy and her generation. She is in her early 40s, so almost 30 years younger than I am.
My generation was the first to have reliable control over our fertility from early in our lives and I appreciated that very much, because my mother had 5 back street abortions during the 1950s. Abortion horrified me; I saw it as premeditated murder. I saw how much it harmed my mum's health in the short term, but also her self esteem and mental health in the long term. Meanwhile, my father was going about his business with no psychological cross to bear and was, in fact, unfaithful to my mother, maybe more than once.
Being prescribed 'the pill' helped me and my friends avoid all that. It meant that I could obey my natural instincts without fear, more or less the same as my male friends did. They never treated me as a 'slut', far from it. We were exploring our sexuality together and learning from each other. We were free to be friends, whether we were physically making love or not. And we WERE friends, through thick and thin. Something my mother and grandmothers had not experienced in their lives.
I used to joke with some of the guys I knew that THEY were terrible 'sluts' because they were fathering kids left and right without taking full responsibility for the care of those children. Some of them heeded my opinions and made an effort to, at least, get to know their kids, even if they could not afford to provide for all of them.
Two of my best male friends, Sid and Jai each fathered more than 20 children (that they knew of!).... No woman could have sowed seeds to that extent, could she? It would have been physically impossible and totally exhausting, I imagine.
Nature drives us to procreate, obviously. So it is not an instinct we should try to curtail in my opinion. Celibacy is probably as psychologically damaging as licentiousness and so I see those two mindsets as extreme. Somewhere between the two lies a healthy zone, where we can enjoy our bodies, learn from each other, develop strong relationships and nurture future generations to do the same responsibly.
I found the essay that Bridget Phetasy wrote to be so caught up with religious dogma on the one hand and politicised 'women's liberation' on the other, that I despair for her and her generation!
It seems to me that since the sexual freedom of the 1970s, which was cut short by the AIDS fearmongering of the early 1980s, young people have taken a huge step backwards.
These 'slut-shaming' tendencies should have died along with my mother's repressed generation and NOT be resurrected to torture and castigate any more generations!
Do we see any other breed of mammal hampering themselves with sexual hang ups?
So why do we DO this to ourselves?
It is bloody weird if you ask me!
Talk about a cliffhanger, Frances! I'm afraid to see what's coming next. It must be cathartic letting this all out. xo
jeez how much worse can it get! x
Thank you Frances, the cliffhanger mistress... The shit you went through....
Mine wasn't as bad I guess still, looking back at it now, I'm thinking if only I knew
then what tough stuff I've been made of... But, hey, I'm still here...
Springsteen, another musician i can no longer listen to, jabbed up moron
'He would never back down. He was an Aries' ive never paid attention to star signs but it is remarkable how often something i randomly learn about it rings true
oh what you endured dear Frances…feeling a little guilty that my life has been a cakewalk … so far 🙀