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Frances Leader's avatar

All it takes (in the UK) is for a woman to claim, without proof or witness, that her man is violent and BOOM he is suddenly painted as an outcast from his own home! I watched her stand in court and lie until she faked a faint.... then her new boyfriend picked her up! Yes, you saw that right.

This new boyfriend was why she accused my son of assault, got him arrested and thrown out of his home on a freezing February night in 2016. I had to drive across country, from Bristol to pick him up with one bin liner of tatty clothes and a silent frozen stunned expression. She was cool about it, having gone out shopping that morning, leaving my son looking after the 4 little ones. He had the baby in a body sling and 3 tots around his feet when the police suddenly arrived and arrested him. She returned to the house as soon as he was gone and we later heard that the boyfriend moved in within days.

I have been hoping we see my grandchildren for six years so far.... they won't recognise us now! We see photos of them on Facebook and all of them are too skinny for my liking. Their mum will have them vaccinated because she always obeys social services or authorities. She is terrified that the kids will be taken into care if she does not. One of the things that my son was strict about was NO VACCINES of any sort. As soon as she got rid of him, she would have taken them for their multiple jabs.....

I tried to get access but she is terrified of me too. Apparently my rights as a grandmother are not worth a light.

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Tracey's avatar

😥

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Brian's avatar

Been there, seen that, done it. Over 10 years of legal battles & walked away with nothing. Far too easy to make false allegations with no recourse for telling such lies. My parents, like you Frances, had been cut off from my sons. I worried about the moral standards my boys would be raised in. Her new boyfriend wanted to play daddy to my sons whilst he abandoned his own 2 daughters. I firmly believe that karma will come get these people. Best wishes to you Frances, hope you are well? Missing you from social media x

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Frances Leader's avatar

I wonder about the moral standards too. I worry that the kids have been told lies about their Dad and are believing that he is a violent man! They were all so very young, I doubt the youngest will remember him at all and have been twisted to resent him. We could not bear the idea of endless battles in court - I don't envy you that agony at all!

Now that I am de-platformed from Facebook I rely on others to gather some nuggets of info from her page so that we can, at least, see how they are doing.

You know where to find me now Brian! Thanks for your supportive comments here! Much love, as ever, Fran xx

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The Word Herder's avatar

This is so very poignant and heart-rending...

And it reverberates for me, as I relate to your son's troubles ... The vulnerable are so easily hurt.

When I stand back, I often wonder just what this life is all about... so much suffering for so many.

I'm torn between trying to fight for my parents, or fight for my country, or for Earth, or... Or not fighting at all? I want to fight...

I'm going to take a few now and send Heart Vibes to your son, Fran! And to you. xo xo xo

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Frances Leader's avatar

I think you should fight for YOU. You are the most neglected out of everything you listed. You need to build your happiness and NOW.

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The Word Herder's avatar

Thanks for that. xo xo

Duty first, I think. But if I CAN'T take care of my folks, then I will move on.

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Frances Leader's avatar

I gave up my Valhalla, my Avalon in Spain to come back to this hell hole UK because I thought my son, ex-husband and father all needed me. They didn't really need me. I DID NOT recover from the loss of the most beautiful independence and joy I had ever had.

I regret not putting myself first.

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The Word Herder's avatar

I'm sorry, and I do see the parallels. I'm trying to figure out my thing. I'll make a decision soon.

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Frances Leader's avatar

Whatever you decide I support. It is your conscience and sometimes nobody knows how it ticks but us.... fingers crossed it all leads to sunny days and happy twilight years for your parents.

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The Word Herder's avatar

Thanks, babe.

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Kelliann's avatar

So sad yet beautifully written.

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DeeDee's avatar

Thank you for sharing - parallels my exists very closely...and that's why Jesus came ( Jn 10:10 )

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Christine Massey FOIs's avatar

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

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JSR's avatar

🙏🏼

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Ray's avatar

ive heard this type of story so often and it hurts my soul, its the reason ive not had a serious relationship in many years. women wonder why men dont date any more...

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Frances Leader's avatar

My son won't even look....

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Ray's avatar

i wouldnt call myself a MGTOW but im pretty much there myself

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Frances Leader's avatar

So am I.... seriously! I hated feminism since Germaine Greer wrote the Female Eunuch. I love the men in my life and am sick of the way the women have treated them.

Too many gold diggers and liars for my liking!

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Ray's avatar

this new generation of twenty somethings all seem hugely narcissistic to me, glad im getting old

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Gradient Roger W, Silent Night's avatar

That hurts.

One day, this is going to blow up. I want to see it. What happens after is not as interesting to me. I want to see the massive wake up to this Computer Aided Shoah.

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Frances Leader's avatar

All it takes (in the UK) is for a woman to claim, without proof or witness, that her man is violent and BOOM he is suddenly painted as an outcast from his own home! I watched her stand in court and lie until she faked a faint.... then her new boyfriend picked her up! Yes, you saw that right.

This new boyfriend was why she accused my son of assault, got him arrested and thrown out of his home on a freezing February night in 2016. I had to drive across country, from Bristol to pick him up with one bin liner of tatty clothes and a silent frozen stunned expression. She was cool about it, having gone out shopping that morning, leaving my son looking after the 4 little ones. He had the baby in a body sling and 3 tots around his feet when the police suddenly arrived and arrested him. She returned to the house as soon as he was gone and we later heard that the boyfriend moved in within days.

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Marta Staszak's avatar

It's pretty much the same in Australia. In some respect even worse

since the "social services" staff in their training are indoctrinated with

enormous bias and sometimes lead unsure and confused women

to take steps plainly not in their interest. It is all planned. Surely

we know that, social engineering implementation. That, of course,

not to discard the fact that there are just really bad people out

there. Decades ago they couldn't "flourish" in society, being minority.

These days they got their support and powers from "the system".

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ㅤㅤㅤ ㅤ's avatar

Raw and poignantly expressed. I truly hope there will be heart/mind/soul healing miracles to come for your son and his family.💚

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Frances Leader's avatar

I have been hoping so for six years so far.... they won't recognise us now! We see photos of them on Facebook and all of them are too skinny for my liking. She will have them vaccinated because she always obeys social services or authorities. She is terrified that the kids will be taken into care if she does not. One of the things that my son was strict about was NO VACCINES of any sort. As soon as she got rid of him, she would have taken them for their multiple jabs.....

I tried to get access but she is terrified of me too. Apparently my rights as a grandmother are not worth a light.

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ㅤㅤㅤ ㅤ's avatar

Ugh. Life altering rock and a hard place you're in. Fear is one powerfully evil, controlling mofo to fight.

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Frances Leader's avatar

Yep! The young woman was brought up in a Children's Home and various foster homes. She has been so thoroughly indoctrinated it is scary. We tried to give her a backbone but she prefers to be a jelly. The new boyfriend is ex forces.... obedience freak too, by all accounts! He has a reliable pension from the army cos he was discharged injured. She seems happy with him. More secure I guess.

My son was in her way....

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It's been truly alarming for those of us who see [really SEE] to witness just how many people [including friends/family members] who will give over their liberty and autonomy for a 'sense' of false security delivered by [Trojan horse] death and tyranny in plain sight. :\

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Eric's avatar

Beautiful 🥰 written

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Dave Ellis's avatar

Beautiful and filled with Love.

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Frances Leader's avatar

He will not see my poem because he does not come to Substack, preferring to work at coding and crypto currency when he is online. It doesn't matter though. I have sent my request out to the universe and it is heard. That is enough for me. xx

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So brief a glow, burnt so intensely low, yet for a while, it seemed as though, All Heaven Danced, within it’s flame, and glory walked, with sweet content, within it's guiding

light……. this is Love.

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Possum's avatar

Leslie, Thank you.

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StraightMail's avatar

Talk about painting a picture with words...simply beautiful 🛐

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Possum's avatar

Francis poem would be nice set to Pan flute, cello and harp.

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Thank you! I am touched that you liked it enough to comment here. xx

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Aw, that would be lovely, I am sure! xx

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