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Eric F Coppolino's avatar

Hi Frances, thanks for posting something relevant about sexuality, even if its relevance is in the form of pointing out the absurd.

Here is something: I don't think that most men orgasm, which is why female orgasm is so mysterious. Most as nearly no men experience the kind of rolling multiple orgasm I've seen in women, or the very wide diversity of types of orgasm that I've seen in women.

I think that most men have a physiological response that is more accurately described as ejaculation, but not the full spectrum emotional experience of actual orgasm. This makes female orgasm even more mysterious. When men experience an actual orgasm, full-bodied, emotional and with waves of energy, they know there is a difference. It takes time, and a map of the territory not included in grade school sex education.

There are many other questions that the people in white lab coats seem to not understand so well, such as why women tend to have breasts far larger than is necessary for lactation; why women 'call out' during sex, essentially advertising their experience to housemates, neighbors and the universe; the nature of sperm competition (nothing could be more opposite than monogamy); why there is a clitoris in the universe, which seems to have just one purpose; and this thing that I've seen evolve over the course of my relatively short, 41-year sexual career, female ejaculation.

This is seen to be so controversial that my close friend the late Betty Dodson (1929-2020, author of Sex for One), did not believe that it even happened.

It happens. And by the way — I've never seen men involved, except for my close proximity. The women I've seen do this had total ownership of the experience. It is emotionally complex, sexually interesting and overall truly beautiful — speaking from an emotional perspective as well as sexual.

All in all, I think that the persistent state of mystery looming over female sexuality is really about all of sexuality, which you rarely see discussed in anything but a ridiculous study like this, all of which remind me of Gary Larson's "The Far Side" parodies of wonky scientists trying to figure out the obvious, or sniffing chemicals from their beakers.

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Connecting The Dots's avatar

Oh Frances...you have the best Headlines...I almost tweaked my neck when I saw it 😁

Great identification of these betaboys...one is led to think their manpon was inserted incorrectly and irritated them into this dysphoric convo.

I keep wondering when younger women will stand in mass to tell these men and trans-interlopers (men in women's locker rooms and spaces) to have a pint of STFU and go get stuffed!!

It seems they are happy to accept the mantra, that to be an accomplished, strong and just as good as a man...woman, you have to be a guy, saying he is a girl...the new girl power.

Now, I will admit, prior to the age of 20, my total knowledge base of the female orgasm, came from palyboy, penthouse and porn videos...which I must say, set quite the high bar, for that first encounter...how the hell do you get her to scream like that and spin around like an airport beacon???

However, past 20, I read some physiology material and books on human sexuality in college and then started actually asking partners, about it and what needed to be done, in order for them to have one.

It was very unexpected by them and enlightening for me.

This whole woke, nihilistic movement, we have been taken over by, is geared toward societal destruction...1001 blocks at a time, simultaneously. Rip down truths, faith, norms and then sexuality and you are basically soaking the human dye, out of human beings.

Great piece. I hope it moves women to get out there and lambast these soyboys, so they can crawl back under their rocks.

“We shall abolish the orgasm. Our neurologists are at work upon it now.”

― George Orwell, 1984

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